Unrequited
Well, with so many pals of mine across cyberspace and the blogosphere mocking me for my Blue Wiggle obsession in the Land of Sleepless Demon Babies and Infectious Diseases (we're going for a record . . . Demon was in rare form last night), without further ado . . . drum roll . . . here he is. The Blue Wiggle. I know, kind of cute. But . . . usually I go for slightly edgy guys. Um . . . not so much with the Blue Wiggle, who sings, I have noticed, of a pirate named Captian Feathersword.
So he's an unrequited Wiggle love. Along with . . . well, too many to count. Clive Owen. Anthony Bourdain. Jason Statham. How long do you guys have? My list continues . . . .
Which brings me to my post.
I am nearly done with a revision to a proposal. And a key part of it involves obsession and unrequited love. And in one case . . . a woman in love with a castrated man. Sorry guys.
And I stand by my belief that sex is what is between your ears, not legs. With the Internet, for instance, what if you met someone in . . . oh, pick someplace far. Like Tazmania. Or, Australia . . . home of the Blue Wiggle. And what if you had this amazing relationship, but you could never, EVER meet and consummate it?
In my books, I've had heroes in wheelchairs and heroes who are celibate. It's all cerebral. And often unrequited.
So is inrequited love a theme in your work? And really, isn't wearing a Blue Wiggle suit rather castrating anyway?
24 comments:
The internet is a wonderful place, in that respect. I doubt I'd ever have walked across a bar to introduce myself to DH if I hadn't met him online. I got to fall in love with his person, and the silly stuff like looks and age and sex didn't matter. It's just love.
I could handle not consummating a love, but I couldn't handle the separation. I feel like a part of my soul gets taken away with them, and I'm left with a gaping wound. (That sounds melodramatic, but it's how I feel.)
Have you seen the TV show 'Pushing Daiseys'? Its a fantastic example of what you are talking about.
I tend to do the unrequited love thing in my WIPs, but sometimes I go soft and let it consummate at the end... sometimes. Of course, sometimes it is not possible.
Sex is mechanics. Lust is story about the mechanics.
That doesn't make it any less important or fun ;)
I could live with unrequited love... I lived with it plenty when I was younger, before I met my amazing wife. I hated it, but I lived with it plenty.
Castration...
Well, it's one way to avoid those pesky sex scenes. :)
Best of luck on your proposal, Erica. Sounds terrific.
I sometimes mask my feelings with a bit of snarky humor, but I've experienced unrequited love in a real way more than once.
And, yes, it's a recurring theme in my work.
I'm pretty sure I need more time on the couch...
And in one case . . . a woman in love with a castrated man. Sorry guys.
Just as long as this isn't the beginning of a trend. I don't want "Sorry, your balls are still attached" to be yet more grounds for romantic rejection.
And I stand by my belief that sex is what is between your ears, not legs.
Depends on what my ears are scratching.
In my early teens I was lovesick for Goldie Hawn (this was during her go-go/Laugh-In days). She married SOME OTHER GUY and I haven't ever forgiven her.
LOL, Stephen!
I've always had a thing for Goldie too. I recently started working with a woman who's a dead ringer for her. Unfortunately, she's married as well.
BTW, I went to University of Louisville, too. Our times there might have even overlapped (I graduated 1983). Did you take any creative writing classes? Did you know Leon Driskell?
Hi Spy:
I know you are just bereft when DH travels, so no, unrequited wouldn't work with you. ;-)
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ewoh:
I LOVE THAT SHOW. It is so . . . whimsical and yet has that heartbreak at its core. It's almost palpable how they want to touch each other.
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stephen:
LOL! Sorry . . . if you have your balls, no need to apply. ;-)
Actually, my story weaves Heloise and Abelard's story through it. A pretty well-known castration.
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Jude:
Good luck with the Goldie Hawn thing. You know, she never MARRIED Kurt Russell, so . . .
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BTW, I went to University of Louisville, too. Our times there might have even overlapped (I graduated 1983). Did you take any creative writing classes? Did you know Leon Driskell?
Small world! I attend 83-85, finishing a degree in math that was interrupted by a tour of duty in the army. I knew Leon but didn't take his classes. The prof I knew best in the English department was Mary Rosner. That was a good campus. Those were good days. I'd relive them if I could.
Yeah? You mean I might have a chance?
Now I have a dilemma. Goldie, or Olivia Newton John?
Decisions, decisions...
Stephen: Small world indeed!
Leon was my mentor for about three years. We were pretty close. And his daughter Becky slid me an occasional free pitcher of beer at The Phoenix Hill Tavern.
Yep. Those were the days.
Obviously your castration didn't bother the guys that much, Erica. They've gone off and had their own school reunion. =)
The Blue Wiggle does have an engaging smile, so we'll forgive you. However, if you start having thoughts about those Tella Tubbies....
Spy, that's...beautiful. Really. Maybe your spy novel is meant to be an epic love story???
I like reading unrequited love, but I just can't make myself write it. I'm too big a sucker for the HEA.
Hi Lainey:
I'll let them blab on about drunken college days.
On to unrequited love.
You know . . . I always have an HEA--just may not jive with the reader's version. I got more upset mail about the ending of the second Billie Quinn book--but I know her arc includes and HEA after book 3--and you can SEE all the ground work. But it's not all sweetness and light HEA. It's more how I view it, I guess, an existential sort of HEA. I don't have an HEA in my own life . . . I have a grace born of difficult circumstances and incerdibly painful lessons, and I guess I feel my grace is my own HEA . . .
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All this talk about castration...
If I ever make you a martini, Erica, I'm NOT giving you a sword for your jumbo olives. ;)
The Blue Wiggle is good looking. I love Pushing Daisies. And my husband still has a crush on Goldie Hawn.
Your post makes me think of think for Christopher Reeves and his wife. Their love didn't stop after he became paralyzed. Not sure of my statistics, but only 25% of women orgasm with penile penetration, so really, 75% don't need that part of sex anyway.
But your question was whether this was a theme in my work. The anwer is not yet.
Hi edie:
Thanks for the stat! LOL!
Actually, remember Coming Home with Jane Fonda? That was an element in that story.
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I did unrequited love plenty in my pre-marriage days (both as recipient and the one who loved but wasn't loved in return).
In my WIP, it in some ways figures more for the villain than the lead. Obsession can lead to dangerous behavior. But it can also lead to great art.
And that's the best photo of the Blue Wiggle I've seen yet. He is a cutie.
When the Wiggles performed in Northern Va a couple of years ago, the Post wrote an article about them that was a little on the irreverent side. Part of the article talked about the, ahem, action that stalks the Wiggly men from city to city. While I myself prefer the Red Wiggle (both because I'm a sucker for someone who plays a--cough, cough--instrument, and because red is my favorite color), I do appreciate the undercurrent of sexuality of the Blue Wiggle. He *is* the Elvis impersonator of the bunch. And you can't do Elvis without a hint of sex appeal, no matter who your audience is.
Lemme see if I can find that article for ya...
j.k.:
See? He is quite cute. :-)
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Karm:
How hysterical!!! Who knew?!?!?!?
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I was incredulous when my nieces shared about Sponge Bob Square Pants. And now I discover I've missed out on an entire cultural phenomenon, The Wiggles. Go figure!
After seeing the photo, I now understand his appeal. (The Blue Wiggle reminds me of a fellow I dated years ago, in another life-time of course.)
Most definitely between the ears. Intelligence is sexy. And caring and compassion. The rest is, dare I say, filler.
No themes of unrequited love, yet.
kathy:
Welcome to my world of Sponge Bob and Blue Wiggle. :-)
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