Lies
I recently discovered someone in a position of authority lied. Not a little lie. Not a white lie. He told me something very specific, then walked into a a meeting with five other people and denied he'd said it. There was no miscommunication. There was no alternate way to interpret what happened. I wasn't drunk or suffering from a concussion when he told me this. I hadn't been struck on the head with a hammer. I didn't have amnesia. None of the above. He lied. End of story.
At this stage in my life, I don't think, for example, cops, firefighters, principals, teachers, CEOs, presidents, or even priests and ministers, are immune from being unscrupulous. They're human. Robes or collars or badges don't have magic powers. But for ME, abuse of power invokes a whole set of fictional scenarios. Because with all due respect for the terrifying serial killer books out there, what strikes fear in ME when I read are those books where someone is on trial for their life . . . and they are being set-up. People are lying on the witness stand, being bought off. Or a prosecutor refuses to look at a different scenario. You need only watch Law & Order--or read the paper--to see innocent people railroaded. Or to see the guilty go free. But to me, it would be absolutely TERRIFYING if (knock wood) one of my kids was set-up, if I was set up . . . if a friend was . . . it's a morass that has got to be a nightmare you wish you could wake up from--but can't.
Sometimes, terror and nightmares aren't the kinds of sick torture scenarios with serial killers eating brains--I mean, heck yeah . . . scary. But to me, it is sometimes it's the things that humans do--that then snowball. The woman who says she was raped, or that her kids were kidnapped--and innocent men get questioned or even imprisoned. The little white lie that then becomes an alibi for a guilty man. Those are the kinds of things that REALLY scare me.
Along with clowns.
But that's a discussion for another day.
Thoughts?

21 comments:
People suck and make me ill more times now than when I was younger. I don't know if it's because I've experienced more life, or that I'm fed up with living in today's society, or a bit of both. But lately people have let me down. No backbones, irresponsible, doing what's "in it for them" or taking the easy way out, which usually involves ass-kissing and double-speak.
No wonder animals have a special place in my heart.
This is why there's nothing scarier than a cop. No offense to cops, most of them are okay... but man, I've never gotten nervous sitting next to a criminal. Them I can handle.
Kath:
Funny . . . I don't think I am cynical. I think I'm an optimist, but when it comes to PEOPLE, I am a realist . . . I almost now expect to see bad behavior. It makes me more reclusive . . . and it makes me choose my friends VERY carefully. I'm also now at the point where I don't want to be around acquaintances who are not kind or not honorable--I'd rather be with a much smaller tight-knit circle.
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Merry:
LOL! It's the power thing. I am TERRIFIED of cops. And it's all the fictional (and real) scenarios of how lives can be ruined by corruption. To ME, those kinds of books are a lot of fun--seeing the wild child lawyer go gunning for the power brokers. I enjoy that form of justice in fiction.
How about a corrupt cop who ALSO eats brains?
I just hate lies. I unfortunately have a really good lie detection system, which I suspect is from teaching. I hated it when the parents told me lies. It was so insulting! I couldn't really call them on it if I wanted to keep my business. Argh. So glad I'm outta there.
I had one little girl I loved who never spoke a truth--only what would get her her way. (Except to me.) Poor girl had ulcers and insomnia in 4th grade, because the only way she knew how to get through the world was to lie and manipulate. My studio was the only place she didn't lie. Her parents are sadly clueless to her, but all her teachers are not--which is even worse. It's like she's in a good home, but she's been able to turn it into a very unhealthy situation.
Jude;
Well . . . Dexter is kind of like that. And that IS scary, except the thing with Dexter is you feel like, for the most part, he's just going after worse killers than him . . . so maybe the world is better off!
Natasha:
Wouldn't she be a fascinating character for a short story?!?!?!
Lies are such ugly things. I can forgive a lot of things in a relationship, but lying is one of the few that will cause me to cut someone out of my life.
The sad thing is, we live in a culture that actually encourages lying in many ways. We put drug dealers in prison for decades, yet if you commit a white-collar crime like embezzlement, you very rarely see jail time (unless you're Bernie Madoff, that is). Something is wrong with that, if you ask me.
L.C.
I look at what just happened at HP--the CEO falsifying expense reports to hide an improper relationship. He's will MILLIONS and he cheats on something so small in terms of money (versus his wealth). It's an integrity thing.
One of the most disappointing things that I came to realize as I became of adult age (I haven't yet 'grown up') was that lying wasn't something other children did because they didn't yet know any better. Adults lied, cheated, and did other hurtful things to people, even though I figured they should have grown out of it. I didn't realize as a child that you either had morals or you didn't.
Cinette:
I spend so much time studying people--wondering their motivations. It's a writer's habit, I think. There are some "types" I cannot figure out and don't suppose I ever will.
I know what you mean. I wonder if some people even know why they do what they do.
I have the lies in writing but there is nothing I can do about it. Believe it or not violating the by-laws of a non-profit organization is not a crime.
(not JRW)
The Swat Team executed the mayor's dogs and never got punished or reprimanded. Instead they blamed an innocent man with lies to cover up the fact that they mistakenly raided his home in search of drugs that never existed.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/01/23/AR2009012302935.html
When you run into this lie thing over and over it's difficult not to be jaded.
Others seem to forget about the person who lied but continue to pass the lie on even if it was proved wrong. They think it makes i okay if at the end of their "story" they say something like, "Oh yes, of course it wasn't true." The damage continues to the innocent while the initial liar moves on.
Feel free to use it. She's too real to me, you know? I had her for seven years, since she was three. She was probably the hardest student I ever taught, and it took me years to figure out how to give her what she needed. I think of all my students, she's the one I worry about. Honestly, she was a bit of a bully and manipulator in school to the other kids, but... well, of course after that amount of time I care for her. Any grief she caused, it was tearing her up inside, physically.
I just don't have the stomach to write an ending for her. :-(
Richmond:
THOSE stories yes . . . they are the stuff of fiction--but they are TRUE!
Mary:
I am beyond grateful for the friends I can tell "anything" to. Treachery, betrayal, drama . . . no thanks. And I hear you. Gossip is insidious.
Natasha:
Did you ever see this movie?
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0048977/
Erica! LOL! No! She's not that bad! Really! She's a kid! She has a good soul!
Natasha:
:-)
LOL!
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